We’ve all been in a place of hurt, where we’ve been lied to and let down by people. Whether it was by family, friends, or associates, we’ve all suffered the bitter taste of broken promises. Of course, it’s not necessarily wrong to get angry when this happens. The challenge, however, is not to let that anger consume our lives. We need to keep on loving them anyway.
And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes… (Revelation 21:4)
And as hard as it may seem, we ought to love them even while they’re hurting us. After all, God never stopped loving us; yet, we’ve let Him down time and time again. We’ve broken our promises and hurt Him on many occasions. Nevertheless, He keeps on loving us anyway.
It’s important to note that while you should always be willing to forgive, there comes a time when you need to get out of an abusive environment. Just because you leave an abusive person, that doesn’t mean you don’t love them. It simply means you want to be in a safe place. Incidentally, this could also apply if you’re with someone who is being unfaithful to you. Never sell yourself short. You deserve better!
Abusive people want you to think you can’t live without them. Truth is; they can’t live without you, that is, they can’t continue being what they are without you being their punching bag. You see, they feed on fear, and want you to be afraid of them because that is how they deal with their own insecurities. It’s all about controlling others, because they lack self-control. Don’t put up with it. Be firm in setting your boundaries with others. You don’t need to be with people who treat you like you’re a lifeless object. You aren’t a doormat to be walked on, but a human-being to be loved.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t give people a chance to change. I’m simply telling you that there comes a time when you have to walk away from an abusive relationship. In fact, some people won’t change unless that happens. It’s called tough love. But whatever you choose to do, be sure to go to Jesus. You’ll find all the love and support you need in Him. He will never let you down.